My life has paved the way for my WHY to take shape. When Sam and I got married, I was a CNA, working in a dementia/alzhemiers care facility. I loved the work and knew I wanted to be a nurse. A year went by and the duties of the job were taking its toll on my body. I’d wake up sobbing at night because of horrible migraines. Some nights I’d seriously just sit in my bed staring off into space because I couldn’t take the stress anymore. I had no control over my emotions and there wasn’t much I could do at work to improve things. But I couldn’t quit my job because we were living paycheck to paycheck. I did not have a degree and was working a dead-end job. Going to school to be a nurse seemed like a far-off dream because the physical demands at work were too much of a load. This is a situation I think many of us have been or are currently in. I don’t want that life for anyone. I think there are some good lessons to be learned when in that situation but it isn’t supposed to be permanent, though many of us can’t seem to get out of it.
I wanted to be a mom eventually. After some thought I knew I did not want to work outside of the home. I wanted to be at home with my kids. That decision eventually led me to doTERRA. This company offered a solution to all of my needs. I could work at home, be my own boss AND help others find solutions to their problems. After much experience and coming to understand myself better, I know now that, by nature, I am a healer. That’s where my passion lies. I used to think that being a CNA was the greatest! I was making money doing what I love to do. The reality was that I was making a pittance doing something I loved that was so demanding it was destroying me physically and emotionally.
It’s been quite the journey for me going into a job that requires selling something. It doesn’t feel like a sales job though. A lot of my insecurities have centered around that concept though. Selling something…yuck. No way, man. The thing is, helping someone find a solution to a physical ailment they’ve dealt with for years, or providing relief from chronic emotional baggage is what I do and that’s not sales. That is providing solutions.
Despite how many may feel, we were not meant to live a life fully concerned with financial obstacles. We were not meant to hold back from what we really want out of life because it is seen as unrealistic by others. How about the opportunity to thrive; To live not only being happy but to experience joy every day? That is what it should all be about.
I remember sitting at my friend Karen’s house listening to her sister talk about her life (she’s a top-ranking wellness advocate for doTERRA) and I had to ask her what it felt like to be in her position. She said the words “financial freedom” and something in me clicked. First of all, I cannot imagine a life without financial concerns. But that doesn’t mean I don’t want it or think it’s not possible. doTERRA for me is not just a job. This is my opportunity to do something I love (helping people heal) AND get paid for it. That’s a sweet career right there.
So, what is your why and why is having that in mind so important? Well, doing this stuff isn’t always easy. You need something to get you through the hard times when you’re wondering why you’re still doing this. It’s not a get rich quick scheme, but more of a marathon. Right now I am finding that it really takes grit to stay in and having the sheer faith that things will eventually work out even when chances seem dismal. I have been dealing with such deeply rooted insecurities that after a year and a half I am just now starting to get a handle on being able to really get into the business. What kept me going was my ‘why.’
I have dreams, people! I want my farm. I want to live my life in the service of others while at the end of the day sitting in a really nice lawn chair, drinking lemonade and just being at peace. I want my kids to have more opportunities than I had. I want them to see the world with me. I want them to know that they can reach as high as they want and with hard work and determination, they can get it. I want them to know that they are absolutely worthy of success in every aspect of their life. I want you to know that also. You ARE worthy of success. You CAN have success and you WILL have it if you keep it up. I am on this road right with you and I can see the light at the end of this long dark tunnel I have been in. At times I have felt that all I have ever done is give and seeing nothing in return. That was my lesson in gratitude and it was a long one.
During convention every year, there is an event called the Gala where you get to dress up, eat fancy food and eventually dance you butt off. My kind of event. It was my first time going to convention. With all of the crazy fun and amazing experiences I had, the Gala was my favorite. This is why: During a good part of the Gala, you get to watch all of the people who have reached higher ranks walk across the stage to a song they chose. It’s their own personal moment of victory. Watching those people walk the stage with huge smiles on their faces, sometimes with their spouses or children, sometimes with a brand new baby in their arms was my favorite part. Karen told me as I watched them, “These are just regular people.” They weren’t born into riches. They didn’t pay their way up the scale. They got to that stage because they worked hard and they went through what I have been going through. They’re doing what they love and they are making thousands of dollars a month living that kind of life. I want that.
I am thinking of my favorite movie of all time: Braveheart. Good ol’ Mel Gibson running his (at the time) fine-looking hindparts up and down the battlefield yelling “Freedom!” Yep, that’s my why. Thank you, Mel…and thank you Scotland for The Kilt.
In order to find your ‘why’, think about why you are doing this. What made you want to pursue this? What is that thing you love to do that makes you feel fulfilled beyond anything else? What are you passionate about? What does your ideal future hold in store for you; Not necessarily just what you will have but what you will be doing?
Take the time to dream.